Living with the longterm effects of gaslighting.

Gaslighting, being gaslit, I'm sure we've all heard about it in some shape or form by now. According to the Oxford dictionary it is defined as "to manipulate (a person) by psychological means into questioning his or her own sanity." In layman's terms, basically Inception-ing (referring to the 2010 smash hit starring Leonardo DiCaprio) someone…

Sweet dreams are made of cheese.

This morning, as I sat down on my couch with my book and breakfast, I was struck by a moment of powerful deja vu. I had glanced at the soft blanket I keep draped over the back of my couch and recalled a conversation I'd had with my friend, Thunder about it. In my mind's…

Managing trauma responses in times of joy.

As you've probably already gathered, I have been through a lot in my three decades of life. A number of these events have left me with permanent scars, both physically and emotionally. These emotional scars come with what we in the business like to call "triggers." In layman's terms, a "trigger" is something either conscious…

I’ve said just about everything to my therapist.

TW: all of them Hi, my name is Ryn (they/them) and I've said just about everything to my therapist. Before I get into too much here, be forewarned, I don't want to pull any punches on this blog. I want to be able to share (just about) everything that I would share with my therapist.…